Failed marriages are not a result of not “finding the one”. It is a result of biblical principles concerning marriages not being adhered to or, the enemy stepped in and destroyed the marriage because no one was able to discern him and if they did, just didn’t know how to fight back.
Finding The “Perfect One” Doesn’t Mean You Will Not Face Problems
God gave Eve to Adam. There could be no more perfect match than this. Yet, the enemy came, deceived Eve, and caused such a big problem that affected the entire human race. When God started to question what happened, he responded by saying “…The woman whom thou gavest to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat” – Gen 3:12. Adam was casting the blame on God.
If God had not given him that woman, then this would not have happened. If the devil could bring problems in the relationship of Adam of Eve, then the idea that a marriage will last forever because you have found “the one” is absurd.
Abraham sent his servant to seek a wife for his son Isaac. Abraham gave him strict instructions not to take a woman of the land of Canaan but was to seek one from his home land (Mesopotamia) and of his relatives.
When the servant arrived, he asked the Lord to fulfill a specific list of requests to show that this is the woman that He had appointed for Isaac. Rebekah came and fulfilled all of the signs. Eventually, Isaac and Rebekah got married and you would say this is a perfect marriage ordained of God and so problems wouldn’t occur. Yet, Rebekah instructed and helped her son Jacob to deceive his father Isaac, so that he could get the blessings of Abraham instead of his brother Esau.
Such a deceptive move of this mother brought about a strife between brothers that lasted for generations until God stepped in and destroyed the descendants of Esau because they refused to forgive.
Amos 1:11 “Thus saith the LORD; For three transgressions of Edom, and for four, I will not turn away the punishment thereof; because he did pursue his brother with the sword, and did cast off all pity, and his anger did tear perpetually, and he kept his wrath for ever:”
If Rebekah was appointed by God, and problems still occurred in the marriage, then your quest to find “the one” because you want a perfect and problem free marriage is a waste of time.
We from the outside look at marriages that have failed, and say it is because they never waited to find “the one”. Some of those who have had failed marriages will also agree with the idea that their marriage failed because they didn’t wait to find “the one”.
But, a failed marriage is not a symptom of not finding “the one”. It is a result of not adhering to the principles and guidelines of God’s word. Or, as the scripture says “the devil comes not but to kill, steal and destroy”. The marriage was destroyed because no one was able to discern the enemy and if they did, just didn’t know how to fight back.
Now, you may be asking “how do I fight back against the enemy’s attack on my marriage?”. Good question, but before we can answer that, we must first deal with the terminology of “the one” in the next blog.